Avoiding Career Suicide: 7 Tips to Stop Interrupting

Share:

In today’s fast-paced society, speed often trumps courtesy. Patience seems to be a virtue of a previous generation, replaced by efficiency. We’ve become accustomed to countless interruptions each day: expecting (and even welcoming) impromptu visits, text messages, social media alerts, or the click of an incoming call during a conversation.

Yet, most of us would agree that being interrupted mid-sentence during a conversation still triggers a pang of irritation. Although interrupting may have become more commonplace; it’s no less rude than it’s always been.

Read on to find out why interrupting can be a career killer, why you do it, and how to stop.

Why is interrupting bad for your career?

Whether you’re interviewing for a new job or working your way up the corporate ladder, consistently interrupting others can be tantamount to career suicide.

Think about it this way:

  • How do you feel when you’re interrupted mid-sentence?
  • Most likely, you feel that the person we’re talking to is more concerned with their opinion; and doesn’t really care what you have to say.
  • Their impatience might cause you to feel disrespected or unimportant; or just plain annoyed if you lose your train of thought.
  • People seldom want to work with (or promote) people who make them feel this way.

Nevertheless, interrupting is a shockingly common habit. Hiring managers have often mentioned to me that although a candidate had a great skillset, they weren’t interested in moving forward. Why? The candidate had continuously interrupted the hiring manager’s questions or responses during the interview. Even President Obama isn’t exempt from being interrupted: in a previous debate with Mitt Romney, he commented that he was “used to” being interrupted.

Even if interrupting is regarded as common or acceptable in your workgroup or culture; it’s still best to avoid cultivating this habit. Conversation habits tend to stay consistent across various situations and over time. Throughout your career, you”ll inevitably cross paths with people from organizations or countries with different cultures. In many cases, people who interrupt are perceived as rude; so it’s best to let someone finish their thought.

Why do you interrupt?

In order to break a bad habit, it’s important to understand the motivations behind your actions. Some of the most common reasons for interrupting include:

  • Lack of self awareness: Not realizing you interrupt others.
  • Fear of forgetting what you want to say (stemming from impatience; nervousness; or planning what to say next, instead of actively listening).
  • Desire to prove expertise to peers or superiors on the topic being discussed.
  • Need for belonging: you want to be a part of the conversation, but there are no breaks in the conversation. Each time you try to chime in; someone beats you to the punch; or one person monopolizes the conversation.
  • Cooperative interruption: an attempt to relate to the person speaking; by making positive affirmations (e.g. “I completely understand!”) or sharing your own story.
  • Competitive interruption: an attempt to change the topic to further your own agenda; or to gain the audience’s attention.
  • Everyone else interrupts: Interrupting is common in your workgroup, culture or family; so you see it as  “no big deal”.
  • An impulsive nature; sometimes a symptom of ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder): You may be impulsive by nature; and have trouble waiting your turn to speak. In some cases, impulsive behavior is a commonly recognized trait in adults with ADHD. (It’s important to note that the symptoms of ADHD may vary from person to person; and that not everyone who interrupts has ADHD).
  • You’re excited or passionate about the topic at hand; which can make it difficult to wait your turn.

How do you stop interrupting?

  • Carry a small notebook and jot down your thoughts as they occurGiven time, the speaker will often address the point or question naturally during the course of their conversation. If not, writing it removes the fear of forgetting the thought. An added bonus: taking brief notes during a conversation comes across as conscientious.
  • Challenge ourselves to stay quietThose of us who interrupt are often the “talkers” in a conversation. But, have you ever noticed that people listen most attentively to those who speak infrequently, but with thoughtful consideration? Removing the pressure to contribute to the conversation helps you to focus on what others are saying.
  • Enlist a friend or colleague to tip you off if you’re interruptingAlthough it’s tempting to hide our weaknesses from others, there’s no shame in admitting to someone you trust that you’re working to improve yourself. Decide on a discreet signal for a colleague to give you if you’re breaking into a conversation. It may help to monitor interruptions at home as well: interrupting can also affect your personal relationships.
  • Don’t assume a pause is necessarily the end of a discussionIf you’re eager to join a conversation, you may jump in as soon as the person pauses. However, some people pause to make an impact or collect their thoughts. Pay attention to their tone of voice and allow a moment before responding.
  • Put a finger over your lips or close your mouth tight as a physical reminder to listen attentively.
  • If you accidentally interrupt, quickly apologize and allow the speaker to continueSimply saying, “I’m sorry, go on” or “Sorry, you weren’t finished” is enough.
  • If you must interrupt, do so politelyIn some cases, you need to interrupt:  such as when you don’t understand; have to leave a meeting that is running over; or a colleague is telling a client incorrect information that could jeopardize a deal. In these cases, try to wait for a pause; then say, “I’m sorry to interrupt, but…”

Recognize when you should allow others to interrupt you

When you’re working so hard to refrain from interrupting, it can be frustrating when someone interrupts you. However, if the person is more senior to you; it’s best to stop talking and let them continue. This is a privilege that comes with a higher rank in the corporate jungle (although this doesn’t mean you should do the same to your junior colleagues). Unless you have an exceptionally close relationship, “managing up” and pointing out the interruption will likely be seen as disrespectful; which can lead to trouble. 

…And when you shouldn’t

In cases where the person consistently interrupting you isn’t senior to you , you have a few options. If you continue talking, most people will get the hint. For times when a less subtle approach is needed; you can hold up your index finger to indicate you’re not finished, then say “Wait, I’m not finished” or “I’ll get to that” in a calm tone of voice. If the person is a friend or a direct report, you may want to take them aside and discuss the issue.

Are you job hunting?

Your Adecco profile is your connection to recruiters, hot jobs and career events. Properly enhancing and updating your profile is key to keeping your name at the top of the list, when it comes to being hired.

Our recruiters are ready to connect you with jobs in healthcare, creative, engineering and tech, and many more industries all over the country. Take a look at our featured jobs, or submit your resume today to get started on your next career!


Have you been guilty of interrupting – or worked with a chronic interrupter?

Share your tips for breaking the habit in the comments below!

Jenni Chelenyak About Jenni Chelenyak

Jenni currently works with Adecco’s global Information Management team as a Business SME on the Candidate Management Programme - Social Media. She’s been with Adecco’s Professional Staffing division since 2010 and held roles in on-boarding and compliance, client account management and technical recruiting. In her free time, she enjoys traveling, spending time with family and friends, yoga and working with an animal rescue group.

Speak Your Mind