I grew up on a dirt road with folks who didn’t put much stock in things like personality tests or personal growth. It was more of a say-yes-ma’am-and-go-to-church kind of upbringing. Not that there’s anything wrong with that; it gave me a good foundation on which to stand.
Now, removed from that environment as a 30-something professional, I do regret not knowing my temperament at an earlier age. For a very long time I thought something was wrong with me because I didn’t want to attend parties and got anxiety over certain social situations. As it turns out, there isn’t anything wrong with me, I’m just introverted.
Our culture tends to put value on traits typically exhibited by extroverts leaving introverts to feel alone and broken. We’re not broken, we just function differently. Not sure which one you are? There is test after test online, but here’s the short version. Answer this question as truthfully as you can. Not how you think you should answer. Is your ideal night: at a huge party with lots of people and non-stop fun OR home alone reading a book or out with one other person you feel very close with? If the latter is your idea of a dream night, you’re an introvert. This doesn’t mean you’re shy or withdrawn, it just means you receive your energy from your internal world vs. the external world the way an extrovert would. Being introverted in an extroverted society can be difficult, but here are some tips to help an introvert navigate even the choppiest extroverted waters.
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